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You Know You’re Big News When …

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You can get to the top of CNN’s front page by doing nothing at all.

Former President Bill Clinton and Barack Obama talked by phone Monday morning, the Obama campaign and a Clinton spokesman said.

Obama “had a terrific conversation with President Clinton and is honored to have his support in this campaign,” said campaign spokesman Bill Burton.

Never has so little meant so much.

More and more this wall-to-wall, “Does Bill hate Obama, check yes, no or maybe” drama is causing me some pause as to the news judgment of CNN political reporter Candy Crowley and her producers. This is all too similar to the great Hilary Duff/Lindsay Lohan/Ashlee Simpson wars from over a few years back.

Or for us Negroes, the continued drama of Tameka Foster, Usher and Usher’s mom. Or Beyonce versus two-fourths of the original Destiny’s Child. Or Shaq v. Kobe, Part 123,784 — Shazam’s Rap Revenge. Sigh. Never have two more unappealing people carried on one pointless feud for so, so long.

Yet despite Kobe’s amazing arrogance, I still hate Shaq more. I can’t forgive his near uselessness as he is one of the most overrated NBA centers this side of Bill Walton. But he’s tall and takes up space so bully for him. Let’s ignore that he couldn’t win anything without Kobe or Dwayne Wade and the many other people who could shoot, run, pass, defend and make free throws.


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June 30, 2008 at 8:16 pm

An Hour With The Snob

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Things went great on the radio this morning. If you want to hear the whole discussion from my one-hour race-a-thon on St. Louis on the Air, click on this link!

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June 30, 2008 at 7:46 pm

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Ask The Snob

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It’s time to crack open last week’s mail and take a peak at what’s going on in the worlds of my fellow snobs! If you have questions I have answers. (Maybe. If I don’t I’ll be honest about it.) Also, don’t forget St. Louisans, I’ll be on KWMU 90.7 radio at 11 a.m. CST talkin’ bout race! For those who want to listen, here is a link to the live feed from KWMU’s Web site. I’ll be on the WHOLE HOUR … for some crazy reason. Check it out!


Incognegro actor Wentworth Miller with an alleged “woman” (Source: Just Jared

First of all, I am so glad that I found your site. You are so talented and insightful. SCAN is hilarious and I love the piece on Zahara’s hair.

Second–Wentworth Miller. Is he really gay? Do you have proof to back this up (or is it just the fact that we NEVER see him with a woman). I am just asking because a friend of mine and I are always arguing over it and if there is proof I would LOVE to forward it to her.

Third–Why do the ladies on The View keep letting Sherrie speak?

Fourth–TJ Holmes IS so cute–and although there is a rumored daughter around I don’t see any rings. Does that mean he is single? Not sure. (some married men don’t wear them–I hate that)

OK that is it for now.

Keep up the great work.



Dear T,

Thank you in regards to my blogs. They’re both a lot of fun for me (although The Snob blog takes up so much of my time I don’t do enough posts at SCAN).

Per your questions —

1) I have noooo idea what Wentworth’s sexual orientation is. He’s been photographed with a few women in the past as his date at events. But people also linked him to actor Luke McFarlane.

He’s intensely private. Despite being famous he’s not a fame whore. He could probably be much bigger and more popular than he is now if he were more extroverted, dated another celebrity and got his face out there more. But he doesn’t do that. That tells me that his sexual orientation is “Leave Me Alone.” Straight or gay. The man doesn’t want us in his business.

2) I don’t know what’s up with Sherrie. No clue.

3) TJ is not married … anymore. He left his wife for Rozonda “Chili” Thomas of TLC more than a year ago. Then he and Chili broke up a few months back. I’ve heard rumors he’s with his wife again, but as far as I know he’s single.

Keep hope alive!

Yours in blackness,

The Snob

My Great Great Aunt Josephine, though proudly a black person, did not appear to be pure African. I’m going to go out on a limb and say some white folks explicitly wandered into our bloodline.


Thanks so very much for inviting questions. I am African American and I am in a precarious position as family historian. When I started researching the family roots we all naively assumed that we were 100% from Africa.

What I discovered from various documents is that during slavery and after, our bloodlines became mixed with European. My family has greeted this news with COMPLETE horror.

As it turns out my paternal grandfather was part Irish, my great grandmother was Scottish, French, Indian and African. This has caused a GREAT deal of stress to my family who was hoping my research would lead us “back to Africa.” Outside of dealing with my family’s reluctance to embrace our European as well as our African heritage, I have a very practical problem.

How do I map out the family tree? Should I include the documented European relatives or just leave them out and make everyone happy?



Dear D.P.,

First off, do not be alarmed. You are not the first black person to discover this fact. Truth be told, the vast majority of African Americans not matter how dark are not pure African. We’re all most commonly mixed with European and native ancestry.

That includes me. And just about everyone who reads this blog. And just about every black person in North and South America and even some white people who don’t realize they’ve got a few incognegroes running around in the bloodline.

Image how they feel when they find out Great Grandpa Millhouse was light, bright and passed for white.

That said, this is a reality you and your family will have to reluctantly accept. It’s simply part of our history, whether it happened out of love or rape. It happened. Not much you can do about it.

Per putting together your family tree, I would suggest that you not kick the white folks out, if only because their lineage might help you trace your relatives back to Africa. This is especially true if these white individuals once owned your family. I have a rare (but common sounding) English last name. Relying on the name, it was a lot easier to trace my father’s side of the family back to the original plantation where nearly every black person in America with the last name “Belton” originated from.

So for that reason alone, accepting the white heritage in order to use it to find the origins of your family is both practical and realistic. There’s a host of white and Indian blood running through both sides of my family. Even though some of that blood came from unspeakable situations, we can’t exactly pretend like it’s not there. For better or worse, it was that blood that created us and created you. Including your white forefathers and foremothers in the family tree isn’t an endorsement of the actions of your historical tormentors.

It’s just fact. Treat it only as such.

Yours truly in blackness,

The Snob

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June 30, 2008 at 2:25 pm

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Can We Still Be Friends?

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Barack Obama and Hillary Clinton have retired their daggers to turn their eyes towards the November election, but a happy reunion may be a bit harder to weather for some Clinton supporters

The announcement of Sens. Hillary Rodham Clinton and Barack Obama’s joint stumping for his campaign June 27th gave the pundits and Kumbaya-lovers what they’d been asking for — a grand Hollywood ending featuring the two political heavyweights. Beaming, standing astride each other and full of praise they were. Even if critics said it wouldn’t be sincere and would take the negotiating techniques of an attorney to pull off, they still wanted it and they got their show.

All applause. All smiles. All over.

Once Obama became the presumptive nominee many Democrats were ready to put away the ammo and move on to the next challenge, all except some who’d fought hard and lost.

While a lot of Clinton supporters are choosing to back Obama, some are having a harder time getting excited about the senator. Others are still steadfast against voting for him.

Out of curiosity and a desire for better understanding, I reached out to some Clinton supporters to better understand what were the issues that caused them to view the Democratic Primary the way they did and why they would or would not support Barack Obama for president. Two female bloggers, Red Queen and Redstar who post at The Hillary 1000 blog, responded, answering my questions about how an individual can go from seeing the primary’s two biggest stars as a double-positive to a negative net loss.

Both women, strong progressives with Liberal leanings, picked Clinton over Obama because of her mental toughness, age and experience with Redstar admitting that because of the candidate’s similar stances Clinton’s gender was a deciding factor. But in the beginning both women liked the candidates.

“I, like many, thought a Clinton/Obama ticket could set us the Dems up nicely for 16 years,” Redstar wrote. “(A) female candidate and a person of color candidate? AWESOME. I sent them both $100 in July 2007, and proudly wore a Clinton pin and Obama sticker at the Congressional Black Caucus annual conference in September 2007.”

“I was excited,” Red Queen wrote. “(OMG a black guy and a white women- how freaking awesome is that!) Even though I was an Edwards supporter.”

Redstar wrote on her blog favorably of both Clinton and Obama’s agendas for families, but as the campaign wore on she preferred how Clinton “tacked pretty hard to the left” and “emerged as the more progressive of the two candidates.” She also liked the fact that Clinton relentlessly attacked the Bush Administration “no holds barred,” adding that she has “always preferred (Hillary’s) partisanship to Obama’s message.”

“I’m a partisan animal, and want justice, retribution, payback and aggressive partisan leadership after the Bush oligarchy,” Redstar wrote. “Seriously, our world is a TOTAL mess and I cannot for the life of me imagine playing nice with the GOP.

Late last fall, Redstar felt herself becoming disenchanted with Obama. His message of unity, hope and change fell on deaf, cynical ears.

“Post-partisan/bi-partisan rhetoric NEVER worked for me,” she wrote. “Obama lost me in part because I felt set up, i.e., his rhetoric didn’t match up with his record as a politician (all his “present” votes, for instance didn’t leave me with a lot of faith in his leadership potential).

“Furthermore, and I think this had a big impact on me, the ethnic/gender compositions of the Presidential campaign staffs were released (for Dems and GOP). Clinton’s staff was majority female and majority non-white. Obama’s in comparison was 80% male and 60% white. I think I just fell out of love early on with him as another typical (politician), and likely in part because he was running as an atypical (politician).”

For Red Queen it was also Clinton’s fighting spirit that inspired her.

“In late December I saw a clip of Clinton on Wall Street Week where she laughed in the face of Maria Barteromo,” she wrote. “When Clinton started talking about plans for the helping people in foreclosure, I remembered why I liked her. The more I heard her plans and saw her speak, the more I liked.”

Both were disappointed by Clinton’s loss. Redstar has decided to begrudgingly support Obama, struggling to get excited about the campaign.

“He’s the nominee. And I keep reminding myself that I would have been excited to vote for him if I hadn’t gotten so excited about Clinton,” she wrote me in an e-mail exchange. “I may still be excited on Nov. 4th, who knows. I’m also ninety-five percent sure I’m going to vote for him, but there’s still a part of me that wonders if in the privacy of the voting booth I won’t.

“I doubt it, but there’s a nagging voice in my head that I should be taking a stand over the misogyny leveled by the media and tolerated by the (Democratic) Party and used to advantage by Obama. I’m honestly conflicted over this, but I can’t really imagine not voting for Obama. I’d really like to see his family in the Oval Office more than I’d like to see him govern.”

The level of sexism in the media and the trench warfare of the primary was a huge issue for both bloggers. Both were surprised how insults lobbed at her were tolerated. Red Queen, who said she would not vote for Obama, could not get past a statement he made about women “periodically feeling down” in reference to Clinton. She felt it was code for women being too emotional.

“The misogyny in that statement made me start questioning,” Red Queen wrote. “The more I looked into Obama and the less I liked him.

“Had he come out and apologized for it, I might not have gone through the trouble of looking more closely into his views and campaign tactics. But once I did, I knew there was no way i could ever vote for him.”

Red Queen felt her views and concerns were being shoved aside for Obama’s political ascension, leading her to not support him as a protest of the Democratic Party’s silence, and to her, endorsement, of sexism.

“(I)t is against my own best interest to support a party that uses misogyny as a campaign tool,” she said. “I have been stalked and harassed and called more sexist insults by Obama supporters than any Republican. Then there is the classism. I’m a poor working class white woman. Obama has made it clear that the only thing the Dems have to offer me is threats and insults if I refuse to vote the party line.”

Redstar, while working to get over the loss, also repeated the same themes of shock and disappointment over the party’s lack of defense for Clinton.

“My biggest source of ambivalence about voting for him in the fall is less about him and more about the way the (p)arty apparatus lined up around him and stood too silently about Clinton’s treatment in the media … (E)ven a few participated – Steve Cohen, for (example),” she wrote.

“All of this post-Clinton suspension discussion of the sexism during the campaign, and her role as a sacrificial ground breaker for future women is really salt in my wounds. Right, now it’s safe to talk about misogyny and gender. Spare me. I really think the Party has calcified and is headed in the wrong direction with politics generally in this country, and Obama hasn’t brought any new faces or ideas into the mix, from what I can tell, other than young voters.”

Asked if there was an issue or an action Obama could partake to win them over, Redstar said she would, “really love to have him reach out to the most angry, entrenched Clinton supporters who don’t plan to vote for him.”

“I’ve seen nothing to indicate that he’s paying attention to these voters, and that he considers them anything other than fringe, emotional lunatics (and women) who need some time to cool off,” she wrote.

“His campaign gives off the impression that this is either a) Clinton’s responsibility or b) not necessary because he doesn’t need these votes to win. I think this is hard-headed and irresponsible. Would it honestly take so much to schedule a conference call with these diehard supporters? If McCain can do it (shamelessly), can’t Obama?”

But while Redstar can bridge the gap, for Red Queen there’s nothing Obama could do to win her over, writing that “(a)t this point, that ship has sailed. I don’t reward sexists, racists or classists with my vote — ever.”

“I’m voting for Cynthia McKinney of the green party. I’ve always liked the Green platform and I thought McKinney was a fiery and awesome presence in the house,” Red Queen wrote. “I don’t feel that a vote for McKinney is wasted (or a vote for McCain). Strong, progressive leaders need to be rewarded with our votes, even if it doesn’t lead to their actual election.”

In this primary things went from politics to personal and while the winners can hold their heads high in victory, the longer race cannot be won with members of the Democratic coalition divorced from the process.

If healing is to begin the concerns and feelings of the former opposition can not be dumped aside with the reasoning that time heals all wounds. All wounds could turn to old wounds that fester and become sore with every poke and provocation. The sexism that attacked Clinton yesterday has its sights set on Michelle Obama today. The party made a fatal error in seeing sexism as a phantom menace because of Clinton’s political potency.

It is a relief that the Democratic Primary is over. And while the Kumbaya moment of Clinton and Obama together may have settled some concerns, no matter what is said on TV we are still some way to go before love conquers all.

To read Redstar’s full statements on Clinton and Obama click here. To read Red Queen’s full statements, click here. What do you think of the views of Clinton supporters struggling to support Obama?

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June 30, 2008 at 1:50 pm

Celebrity Round-Up: Best of the Week

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Singer Teyana Taylor delivers the cake, looking a delightful hot mess in a purple Minnesota Twins hat and pink plaid at Rihanna’s Good Girl Gone Bad viewing party June 17th.

Famous people, mostly dressed badly, standing in front of cameras and getting their pictures taken. It’s a hard job, but they were all just sober enough to do it. Here are my favorites from the past week.


I have mixed feelings for Rihanna. I’m probably not in the demographic for her music, but I have to admit, she looks pretty adorable here trying to be all dark and sexy with the heavy eyeliner like a high schooler trying to age-it-up to get liquor at a club she’s too young to get into. Rocking Halle Berry’s hair of almost 15 years ago. Awww! Try not to throw up from downing all those shots of Cuervo Black!

LeToya Luckett, still alive.

I thought this was an accident when I first saw it on WireImage. Like someone teleported a photo from 1992 into Rihanna’s shindig. But, no, this is a group called The Retro Kids. And I’m lovin’ the kente cloth vest, bi-colored high top fades and tortoiseshell glasses making them look like some weird mash-up of Kid n’ Play, Kwame, “Don’t Be Cruel” era Bobby Brown and Troop.

Nice. I’m feelin’ it. I won’t wear those clothes again (no Cross Colors?), but I’m feelin’ it.

Also, kind of frightened that at 30 the music of my youth is “retro.” I prefer “out of style.”

But speaking of “Don’t Be Cruel” era Bobby Brown …

This isn’t him.


No. It’s old, formerly (currently?) cracked out, Whitney-less Bobby Brown. The self-proclaimed “King of Stage” took the stage, along with the rest of New Edition, at the ASCAP Rhythm and Soul Awards June 23.

“Ronnie, Bobby, Ricky and Mike, if I love a girl who cares who you like!” (Ralph and Johnnie too, yeah … word tha mutha!)

And if that passage made no sense to you, my word, I am so depressed now. And why is Ralph Tresvant bald? I loved Ralph when I was in junior high (not more than I loved Tevin Campbell because I loved no one more than Tevin at the time.) But I still listen to Ralph’s solo album to this day. I can’t listen to his whiny rap on the track “Rated R” without laughing (who can?), but “Do What I Gotta Do” still holds up well.

Other people found to be still alive at the ASCAP Rhythm and Soul Awards …

MC Lyte (So many kinds of wrong. One part Roman, one part WTF.)

Tichina Arnold (I’m a little weirded out by her side-boobage.)

And alleged Pussycat Doll Melody Thorton and her hideous peek-a-boo toe high heeled boots.


The lanky NBA Finals champ (finally) Kevin Garnett in Manhattan, NY.

Cellphone assassin/professional clothes wearer Naomi Campbell doing something good (as she is wont to do). This time she was lending her criminal star shine to the Africa Rising Festival June 25. Naomi is all about the motherland. Although I am concerned about this wig she has on.

She makes too much money to be wearing something that looks like what I can purchase at a King’s Beauty Supply on West Florissant. (That’s North St. Louis County for the non-St. Louisans. The Koreans have the fake hair, beauty product market on lock.)

Rosario Dawson looking very, very pretty in white on June 22. The bag is an Eco bag she designed for some save the earth thingy for Absolute Vodka. Oh, Rosario. I don’t believe there was much “designing” going on with this bag, but you look almost dainty and ethereal for a crazy, crazy woman.

I’m assuming this jacket is for warmth as Rihanna leaves Madison Square Garden June 18 after show with Ne-Yo because it’s totally ruining what looks like a pretty cute cocktail dress. It’s a little “jazz hands” and Solid Gold, but it’s cute on her.

Ne-Yo. I realize this is because I’m not hip like I used to be, but I tend to get Ne-Yo confused with Mario, Trey Songz, Ray J and Omarion. Technically, I know who Ray J is. Before he used to be just Brandy’s little brother. Now he’s that gross guy with the porn tape. But vocally there’s a lot of crossover going on and it doesn’t help that they’re all basically weaker versions of Usher Raymond and I hate Usher Raymond.


“If me and Janet got married I’d be Jermaine Jackson. Heh, heh … wait. That didn’t sound right.”

Look away! Look away!

Whew. That was a close one. I almost looked JD in the eye … wait, OHMYGOD WHAT IS THAT???!

Hot Dollar. That has to be a joke right? Hot Dollar sounds like a pimp Eddie Griffin once played in an Ice Cube production.

Evan Ross. As a fan of boys who sometimes look like girls … you look great, Son-of-Diana … Brother-of-Tracee. Even if you do have on over-sized aviator shades and the way you’re grabbing your belt is evocative of Michael Jackson’s crotch grabbing era of the 1990s. Never did one man grab his crotch so much in order to pantomime sexual prowess. What’s sad is I feel like that had a lot to do with Motown marketing him as a sex symbol at ten. I’m sure that didn’t screw him up at all.

Now go eat something, Evan. You’re wasting away.

The pale half of Kid n’ Play, Chris Reid.

Jurnee Smollett. I love you, but I’m not supposed to see your bra. Try some double-stick tape next time. Also, not feeling your outfit, but you’ve transitioned pretty well from child actress to … whatever you’re going for here. You’re a good actress, though. You’ve always had the chops. Just don’t get all tricked out with fake boobs and start making “Me sooo sexy” faces all the time like your “Eve’s Bayou” co-star Meagan Good. I love her too and she is almost too sexy, leading me to opine, less can be more.


Ashanti’s 1920s hair and Nelly

Big Boi and actor Ryan Philippe (never noticed those flame tats on Ryan’s arm before. Were those there pre- or post-divorce from Reese?) And it’s still disturbing how he still looks like he could be Justin Timberlake’s brother. He also looks like he could kick Justin’s ass, but that’s why Ryan’s sexier than Mr. SexyBack. Don’t talk about it, be about it, Justin!

I don’t know who’s scarier here. Lil’ Kim with her blonde wing, fake lashes and general bleached out look; Diddy looking puffy with his slight paunch, cap curiously backwards; or Lil’ Wayne … no words there.

I’ll be safe and say it’s a tie between the two “lil’s.”

Hmmm … with this hat I’m wondering …

Separated at birth?

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June 29, 2008 at 7:18 pm

Of Love and Unforgiveness

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This is the tenth entry of “The Chip On My Shoulder Is A Boulder,” a series on the complex relationships between black women and their mothers. The series will run through this week. Previous entries include “The Adoptee,” “The Rebel,” “The Gypsy,” “She Did Her Best,” “The Reluctant Mother,” “The Narcissist’s Daughter,” “The Survivor,” “The Baby” and “The Rock.” The series will conclude on Monday.

In this final item from the readers, a daughter contemplates where within whom her real disappointment lies — the father who hurt her, the mother who remained silent or herself.

The Silencer has chosen to focus on avoidance and remaining quiet rather than confronting her true emotions or her mother.

This method might be the path of least resistance, but it’s a psychological burden that’s never easy.


I love my mother, a lot more than she realizes. My friends and I affectionately call her the “Precious Lamb” because she is one of the sweetest, most gentle and well, precious, people you’ll ever meet. For some reason, though, she hardly ever hears from me, her only child, how much I care for her.

Over the years I’ve come to realize that my silence is due to anger and resentment, old wounds that refuse to heal. My mother, like other mothers, didn’t protect me. At least, she wasn’t as vigilant as I wanted her to be. Even though she would do whatever I ask of her, there’s one area where I wanted her to speak up and yet she didn’t.

My father, her husband, was and is emotionally and verbally abusive. He never beat us with his hands, but his words stung regardless. Sometimes the rants and verbal hits were so brutal that I secretly wished to be slammed or pummeled. At least a physical beating would be quicker. A physical beating would leave scars that he could see. Instead, when I was, he’d yell even louder. “What are you crying for? What are you afraid of? I haven’t laid a finger on you!” Maybe if he saw the pain he inflicted, then he’d have a change of heart.

This is the source of anger I have towards my mother. She saw the pain. She saw the devastation in my eyes when my father said I was “stupid” and “ugly” on a regular basis. While she tried to soothe my tears, she never once stood up to him and said “Enough!” Her answer to everything was to be strong and to love my father because the Bible instructs us to love and forgive everyone.

It’s taken time for me to realize that she couldn’t protect me because she didn’t know how to protect herself. Unfortunately, I look at my current relationships with men and see the cycle repeating itself.

Boyfriends and lovers have never hit me, but I’ve had boyfriends degrade me in numerous ways. And like my mother, I stay. I stay silent. I apologize for whatever I did to make them call me “dumb” or “fat.” I continue to humiliate myself by giving to someone who, in hindsight, clearly doesn’t deserve my generosity. My anger rises not at these inadequate men, but at my mother for not setting a better precedent. I wonder if she would’ve stood up to my father, would I be chasing after these men? Would it be easier for me to spot out the future abusers? Would I be courageous enough to leave? Most of all, I’m mad at myself for blaming her and not my father, the real cause of these problems.

Maybe one day I’ll tell me mom exactly what she means to me. I just hope I can work up the courage to do so for it’s too late.

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June 27, 2008 at 10:38 pm

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The Snob … On the Radio … About Race! (Update)

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Some new developments in Snob-land. I’m going to be on the radio at 11 a.m., Monday, June 30, to talk about black people, black issues and black culture at our local NPR station, KWMU 90.7, on the campus of University of Missouri – St. Louis.

As usual, I’m working on a book (when am I not working on a book?), but instead of one of my many novels, this will be a book based somewhat on my Secret Council of American Negroes blog. It’s a satire book. Don’t get excited! I haven’t sold it to anyone and it’s NOT finished. But it’s based on what I’m going to be talking about on the radio, which is “everyday blackness,” a thing most non-black people are not very astute about, but in the Obama era, folks could use a quick brush up on.

That said, this is a LOCAL broadcast. If you’re not in the St. Louis City/County area it won’t be heard. But if there is a link to it that I can post on my blog I will post it. If not … um … maybe someone will record it and post it. You never know. Any of you St. Louis readers know how to do that? Because I totally do not.

Never mind! Monie provided a link KWMU has for live-feeds. She’s obviously not as lazy as me.

Yours truly in blackness,

The Snob.

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June 27, 2008 at 7:05 pm